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my mom said my dad had to tell my mom that shes my mom and my dad

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私のお母さんは、私のお父さんは私のお母さんに、彼女は私のお母さんと私のお父さんだと言わなければならないと言いました

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My mom said my dad had to tell my mom she's my mom and my dad

INTO JAPANESE

私の母は、私の父は私の母に彼女が私の母であり、私の父であると伝えなければならないと言いました

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my mom said my dad had to tell my mom she was my mom and my dad

INTO JAPANESE

私の母は、私の父は私の母に彼女が私の母であり、私の父であると言わなければならなかったと言った

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my mom said my dad had to tell my mom she was my mom and my dad